When you do that, she’s going to be aching to have sex with you, and it doesn’t matter what date it is.Instead of the three-date rule for sex, make it the four-date rule for sleeping over.Make it a four-date rule to make her feel comfortable.In reality, it’s about having great sex rather than just getting laid.You see, women are conditioned to believe men will start putting on the pressure for sex by the third date, and that’s where the clutter comes in. The longer you leave her wanting you, the more she’ll need you and beg you for sex. I’ve been to a few Greek restaurants that do plate smashing. Pick somewhere that doesn’t push the romantic atmosphere too much. Literally let her sleep over like you had sleepovers as a kid. But if you really like a woman and want to get to know her on a deeper level, what difference does it make if you don’t have sex until date four or five? Don’t just pick the nearest fancy restaurant to you. It’s important to kiss her or at least hug her and hold her hand. It starts to get late and that’s when you tell her she can stay over.
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