What I learned from carrying out an interview of a female and the interview of a male trying to dig into this intriguing subject was that using the Internet for dating is equally painful for men and for women, but for very different reasons.
Ironically enough, if you could take the best of those women and the best of those men, and place them in a big room where they could sit at a table and ask each other questions in person – you’d probably have 4 or 5 new match-ups by the end of the night. All they have to do is get online every day, sitting on their princess throne and file through the dozens or more profiles of men who have messaged them throughout the day.
'Why He Disappeared' is exactly what I would have wanted to write if I were a man...
Evan tells it to us straight - with humor, with passion, and in a way that will stick with you - that will actually make a huge difference for you.
Thanks for your time and for advice is appreciated.
Okay, it’s time to have an open and frank discussion about the battle of the sexes and the dating game.
The problem for male loners is that their lack of friends or a social circle is a deterrent for women.
Dear Robert, Among the most common advice given by relationship experts is this doozy: “Just be yourself!
Men with no friends or existing social life get ignored and rejected by women (especially online) Being a loner and single as a man often means attractive or average women do not show any interest in you.I am a BW and I have a daughter from a relationship with a BM. I don’t see them getting any better years to come and I don’t want my daughter to experience the abuse (physically, emotionally, psychologically) that they bring to the table.I don’t want to talk down about BM to my daughter but I am not going to sugar coat it either.We women have been sold the lie for so long that we have no power in relationships - and Evan turns that lie around and gives you your power back.He not only gives you your power back, he shows you exactly how to use it - and what's even MORE important, how NOT to use it.The problem with online dating is that you can’t see the person’s face when they’re telling you about themselves. I think it’s hard for guys to comprehend the world of online dating from a woman’s perspective. They then flippantly toss out all of those well thought out, carefully crafted messages from most of those poor schmucks, and then they log onto their Facebook accounts to complain to their girlfriends that there are no “good men” left in the world.You can’t watch as they smile, and that smile spreads up into their eyes and transforms their face into one of the most beautiful things you’ve ever seen – a thing that warms your heart and makes you realize you want to spend more time with the person. Unfortunately, the reality is nowhere near that fantasy.I know some are good but a lot of them have deep rooted issues with black women.It’s very hard to find one good one in a barrel of bad ones.She may express this lack of attraction by saying there is “no chemistry”, or she “just wants to be friends”, or that she “isn’t feeling it”, or that he is a “nice guy”, etc.In some ways, this drawn out rejection is even worse for the rejected loser male.